My frustration with the notion that either holiness is equated with a lack of red lipstick and whiskey, or that it is an unobtainable reality, reserved for the afterlife is not unique to me. Consider:
There is no idea more foolish or pernicious than this — that a person who is not sanctified, not made holy in this life, should afterwards be taken into the blessedness that consists in the enjoyment of God. Such a person cannot enjoy God, nor would God be a reward to them. Holiness is perfected in heaven, but it is always begun in this world.
John Owen, quoted by Colin S. Smith in The Plan (Wheaton, Ill.: Crossway Books, 2011)